Discrimination Part 2

My own discrimination started early in life due to being adopted as kids can be cruel. This was the era of the late 1970’s early 1980’s. My parents told me I was chosen and a gift from God which eased the hurt and made me more mentally tough to the harsh words of the world that doesn’t except a person for being different. Fast forward to this year and the reconnection with my birth mom. I have the best of both worlds. In the bible it talks about there being two mercies granted for every woe.

Discrimination due to my disability has been brutally overt or at times very subtle in non acceptance of who I Tylor John Stingel am as a disabled man living in this world trying to make a way for himself. Yes I don’t drive due to my previous brain injury history and having a epilepsy condition. This does not make me less of a person. Yes finding a place to call my home in work, residence and being comfortable in my own skin is a daily adventure. God is not finished with me yet and He has not given up on me. Therefore I will not give up on me despite struggles to be accepted.

I can only imagine the discrimination and cruel talk that could have gone on behind my birth mom’s back as she was an unwed mother being pregnant with me. This is a cruel fact of life for unwed mothers for decades especially in the last 3 or 4 decades where the subject of teen age pregnancy was brought out in the open. God loves that unwed pregnant mother, he loves that baby no matter the circumstances as God is a God of grace, mercy and love.

I am a writer,advocate and have had jobs and will again in the helps profession. I would love to teach in some form again one day. I love to see the sense of achievement on a child or adults face learning something new especially when I teach English as Second Language.

Yes we as humans discriminate but asking our Higher Power for forgiveness and showing people grace and mercy will make us the bigger person. There is always someone in a worse condition than our self. Having an attitude of gratitude for the talent, spiritual gifts and a soft heart that God gives us when we follow Him is important. Yes we have to compete and struggle to make a way in the world. God will reward us for our obedience and live a life filled with knowledge, acceptance, wisdom and love in a this hard and unforgiving world we can live in too make a difference in people’s lives.

By Ty Stingel

July 30, 2013

Discrimination

I was watching the movie “42” The Jackie Robinson story. An era of very poor race relations after World War 2.  A white general manager Branch Rickey of the Brooklyn Dodgers Baseball Club wanted to right a personal and an injustice in Major League Baseball by breaking the color line in this sport. The only catch for Jackie was that he could not fight back in his first year. He debut was April 15, 1947 were Mr Robinson was the first African American in the Majors. The discrimination and hostility against him was great. Racial slurs, leading the league in being hit by a pitch, being spiked. Jackie turned the other cheek and let his playing do the talking which was an almost super human feat.

So how does this story fit in with my blog. I relate to being discriminated against as a disabled person and living with a Traumatic Brain Injury most of my life. Like Jackie I have developed a thick skin too gossip about my disability instead of my ability. Martin Luther King in his “I Have A Dream” speech had a transformational sentence. I have a dream where my children will be judged by the content of their character not the color of their skin. Just like Dr. King I have a dream that all disabled people get treated equal. That could always be a dream but one can hope that people can look beyond their difference and see who God made them to be.

A Latino, African American or person from any other nation should be given a fair shot at employment and raising there families just as the white race. I say the same applications for living, employment and fair treatment should be given to the disabled child or adult as is to the able bodied child or adult.

Branch Rickey asked Jackie to turn the other cheek just like the Savior Jesus Christ who paid the ultimate price for mankind. Anyone who has been discriminated must rise above the bigotry, hatred and ignorance. Yes their will always be discrimination but we can make a difference. I believe in the power of one person standing up for someone or something they believe in.

You can tell I am fired up about this subject. God is good and I ask forgiveness when I am angered about discrimination in my life. The power of love and acceptance is greater therefore I want to achieve and be successful to prove the critics wrong and be an example to others.

By Ty Stingel

July 29, 2013

Follow Your Heart

Life is so short why not live it with passion

We have a take a chance and be all in

Finding your talents and begin

Follow your heart and don’t worry about people’s reaction.

Yes you could win or lose

Challenges could come from every direction each day

However if you never try you will know never know how to play

So what do you choose?

Following one’s heart can be risky proposition

Some people may not support your dreams

Be strong, courageous and unwavering and be free

In the end how you live is your decision.

I choose to write, speak and encourage others

The cost at time has been great when doing what is right

However this is my honor, my journey and fight.

So it is my goal to be kind, understanding, supportive of my sister and brother.

What stirs your heart and what are your goals?

Never back down and take your stand

Whatever your background, abilities you have rights in this land

Believe that God has faith in you and will honor your dreams and goals.

So follow your hearts and the results may surprise you

May you blessed, happy and fulfilled in your daily walk

So encourage other’s today as you talk

When you live a life of service the blessings will come back too you.

By Ty Stingel

July 25, 2013

 

Education For The Disabled Child

Education for a disabled child can be done. The old saying if there is a will there is a way. I have dealt with traumatic brain injury affects all my life. I have been blessed with great teachers, tutors which include my parents who were patient with me. Reading, writing, spelling, math, science and history were worked on. My dad would tell me working hard is not good enough. Working smart and a good work ethic will take me places he would say. There were too be no excuses, compensate, be practice an educational skill successful over and over again. Yes I graduated high school and have a B.A. in Leadership Development but when you want something bad enough you do what it takes to be successful. Yes it took me longer and their were no shortcuts in my life. I am grateful to God and family that have stood by me in my experience.

The educational life for any disabled child will depend on the disability, attitude of the caregiver on education and the desire of the student to give their best effort whatever that might be. Every child takes a different road to learning. Some individuals are hands on  learners. Other students learn by hearing or by sight. Technology can be a great tool to giving a disabled student a level playing field to succeed in the classroom in this information age.

Some parents or caregivers might not approve of my parents or my approach to learning. The great thing is that no one has to use our approach. They can use a method that makes their child successful in and out of the classroom. All I can say is be creative in your teaching or tutoring techniques, be involved with your children’s school, go to parent teacher interviews, make learning fun and never give up on your child.

My parents God bless them never gave up on me. A child disabled or able bodied can be given a great gift of the desire to learn and research a topic that interests them. Every child has a talent and parents and teachers are given the joint task to help the child and student to discover what they are good at doing.

By no means am I an expert on the education of a disabled student. I just have experience being an overcomer of my disability. My parents have sacrificed a lot to make me the person I have become. I would love to hear more success stories of children and parents who have gone on similar journey our family. Let me make it clear I cheer for anyone who overcomes their difficulties in the classroom, their disability and how successful they have become and the parents and caregivers who support them.

Success can come in varied degrees for every disabled student or with a learning disability and I say cheer a good effort big or small. A positive attitude will make all the difference in the world. So be all you can be and seize each day as a disabled student and the parents , caregivers, teachers and tutors that support them.

By Ty Stingel

July 22, 2013