PTSD

 What I am about to write probably my mom and dad only knew and experienced with me is childhood Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Why do I write about this after all these years. To let  others who have went through childhood or adult injuries. What also touches my heart. are the scares seen and unseen  from military combat that they are not alone in their struggle to be at peace with their past experiences, surgeries and near death experiences in some cases.

 Let me say first off I am no hero I am a brain injury and epilepsy survivor saved by God’s grace. My testimony or story has many layers but at the core starts with the Death and Resurrection of Lazarus in John 11:4  When he heard this, Jesus said, ” This sickness will not end in death. No it is for God’s glory so that God’s Son may be glorified through it.” Jesus put his hand on Lazarus and he arose. The surgeons hand and many prayers pulled me through 6 brain surgeries in my first seven years all I wanted too be brave.

 I was grateful to be alive but I had a dream that seemed to repeat itself as my head was opened up and I was having an out of body experience not knowing whether I would live or die. While dreaming this my airway seemed to tighten up and I would wake up in a cold sweat. It was so hard to get back to sleep. When I was 12 years old I asked God to take that crippling nightmare away and it left me forever in my dream life. I am now 39 years old and it took many years to come to terms with my injuries from brain injury, bullying from school kids in elementary school. who I have long forgiven and asked forgiveness on my own anger issues to not let people get close to me at the time. I did not know the term P.T.S.D. at the time but I must have had it and God’s healing hand on my soul and mind was my cure.

 I can relate to someone who has went through childhood or adult illness of any kind and know we all come to a peace resolution in varying degrees. My heart hurts for those tormented from the different therapies that caused pain. May you find peace and happiness in your lives. May you know that you are not alone. You can be real with other survivors. Sometimes family and friends don’t understand your journey but we are not left alone if we reach out for help. You are worthy and valuable in this life we are given. Though it may not seem like it and the struggle may be great your lift is a gift. There is always someone who loves and cares for you.

 For the veterans who fought in the military may I first say thank you for your service. I am Canadian but have family members who fought on both sides of the Canadian- U.S.A. border in World War 1 and 2.  I will never know what you went through but my prayers go out to you. May you find peace through talking about your experience. You are valuable and you have worth back here at home and may you find peace, love and share your talents back at home. May I say welcome home and know that you have this civilian too talk to any time if you choose.

 Post Traumatic Stress Disorder does not have my soul and mind anymore. However all that read this that suffer from this have my prayers, support and respect. May you know that you have much too teach us from your experiences. You are all warriors and survivors. May you find peace and rest as you all deserve it. For all of you who don’t suffer from P.T.S.D. but know someone who suffers from this condition love on them, listen too them and may you be patient with them as they recover and are seeking help.

My hope and prayer their is not one more military personnel who commits suicide due too not receiving the proper help. May the stigma of mental health issues be taken away with education and understanding. By no means am I an expert but a person who wants too see those who served in the military or civilians get the help they deserve and live a life in peace.

By Ty Stingel

January 21, 2014

Education For The Disabled Child

Education for a disabled child can be done. The old saying if there is a will there is a way. I have dealt with traumatic brain injury affects all my life. I have been blessed with great teachers, tutors which include my parents who were patient with me. Reading, writing, spelling, math, science and history were worked on. My dad would tell me working hard is not good enough. Working smart and a good work ethic will take me places he would say. There were too be no excuses, compensate, be practice an educational skill successful over and over again. Yes I graduated high school and have a B.A. in Leadership Development but when you want something bad enough you do what it takes to be successful. Yes it took me longer and their were no shortcuts in my life. I am grateful to God and family that have stood by me in my experience.

The educational life for any disabled child will depend on the disability, attitude of the caregiver on education and the desire of the student to give their best effort whatever that might be. Every child takes a different road to learning. Some individuals are hands on  learners. Other students learn by hearing or by sight. Technology can be a great tool to giving a disabled student a level playing field to succeed in the classroom in this information age.

Some parents or caregivers might not approve of my parents or my approach to learning. The great thing is that no one has to use our approach. They can use a method that makes their child successful in and out of the classroom. All I can say is be creative in your teaching or tutoring techniques, be involved with your children’s school, go to parent teacher interviews, make learning fun and never give up on your child.

My parents God bless them never gave up on me. A child disabled or able bodied can be given a great gift of the desire to learn and research a topic that interests them. Every child has a talent and parents and teachers are given the joint task to help the child and student to discover what they are good at doing.

By no means am I an expert on the education of a disabled student. I just have experience being an overcomer of my disability. My parents have sacrificed a lot to make me the person I have become. I would love to hear more success stories of children and parents who have gone on similar journey our family. Let me make it clear I cheer for anyone who overcomes their difficulties in the classroom, their disability and how successful they have become and the parents and caregivers who support them.

Success can come in varied degrees for every disabled student or with a learning disability and I say cheer a good effort big or small. A positive attitude will make all the difference in the world. So be all you can be and seize each day as a disabled student and the parents , caregivers, teachers and tutors that support them.

By Ty Stingel

July 22, 2013

 

6 Neuro Surgeries, 4 Concussions- Ty Knows Life As A Victor!

Yes I had 6 brain surgeries by the age of 7. I have had 4 concussions in my life that I count. You may ask yourself how I can see myself as a victor. Well I never let my surgeries and concussions get me down for long. There was always a job to be done. Rehab from a surgery or accident that led to concussion. School homework, baseball drills, running track and just trying to achieve normal kid goals no matter how long it took. To say I am stubborn and humbly speaking an overachiever I will gladly accept those compliments but only for a moment because there is always something new to achieve.

Some of my goals as an adult have been achieved. I am well educated but never feel I have all the answers. I seek knowledge as my dad told me many years ago that I would make my way in this world with my brain, pen and paper. Little did he know that being an author, blogger and speaker would be in my future when I was a boy.

None my hopes. dreams, dreams and accomplishments would have ever come true without my faith in God, my family or friends that encouraged me. I must sound like a broken record but I am not a arrogant individual that thinks they live life on a island by themselves. My supporters were many and they have continued to stay with me on my journey through the good, bad and the ugly of life.

My new goals in life are to be the best I can be in the literary and eventually back in the motivational speaker’s community. Should I ever go back to university a Master’s Degree in Sociology would be a goal that would connect with my B.A. in Leadership Development. I even like writing about the journey of people and civilizations as I have studied in Mexico and grew to love the people ,there culture, music and language.

So brain injury is an obstacle and yes I do have my bad days and will probably take anti epileptic medication due to my surgeries for the rest of my life. These facts of my health are relevant and need to be treated with respect. However I am a role model to my nephews, the disability, brain injury communities and  in my profession as a writer.

I have had to go through the stages of grieving denial, anger, bargaining, acceptance and letting go to move forward and gain peace and freedom. This is my hope for all who read my blog. Whatever life has put in your path you can overcome and be victorious. You can be someone’s hero in your family, your community and in the world. There is greatness in all of us if we dig down deep and stand up and say I want to lead, be a role model and encourage the gifts in others lives.

By Ty Stingel

Day in The Life of A Brain Injury Survivor

A day in the life of myself as a brain injury survivor has been made as normal as possible over the years. Number one is to wake up with a attitude of gratitude for every day of life You see every day to me is a gift from God. Every day I take my medication, eat, get dressed and go to work. Right now my work is as a writer and blogger. Drink too much coffee to combat my medication so I can get my day’s work done. I have been a student, have two degrees, taught English to immigrants, worked  as a bakery clerk, security guard, in human services,  and have had the opportunity to be a writer and speaker.

. You see I was faced with my own mortality six times by the age of seven. My last brain surgery was December 31.1981 at he age 7. The surgeon operated on me for nearly five hours with a blood clot the size of an orange after getting my head rammed under a school desk. Started working on homework once I got out of ICU. My parents have always been there for me. They helped me with my homework and pushed me to give my best effort . They my parents wanted me to work and to work smart. My parents have always been great teachers and fans.

I have gone through occupational and physical therapy on the right side of my body due to having surgery on the left side of my head. Working on cognitive and physical therapy as well. When you recovery from TBI it is a life long endeavor. I wake up every day and see a scar along the left side of my head. A badge of honor for the 49 stitches that closed the incision so I could live. My belief in God and miracles is for many reasons including surviving my last brain surgery. Yes the surgeon did a masterful job which I am forever grateful. Many family members and friends from Canada and the United States prayed and gave their support to my parents and myself. Miracles still happen and I believe that  my last 31 years have been a gift from God.

Life is a gift given for us to live to the fullest able bodied or disabled. Life is full of surprises with joy, sorrow, anger, bargaining, setback and overcoming the odds. Attitude is everything in life. Did I have bad days, was scared or discouraged in my journey and the answer is yes. Did my faith, family and courage to carry on become a rallying cry and the answer is yes. Do I think I am special or heroic and the answer is no. Do I want to encourage brain injury survivors, individuals with disability and anyone who has encountered a loss in life to grieve and overcome? Yes this is my goal to inspire others to achieve their goals, use their gifts and talents. We are not an island unto ourselves. Living in community with supports to live a new normal has been key to my journey and can be helpful to others with a disability.

The heroic life saving stories at the Boston Bombing of First Responders, ordinary citizens, law enforcement has renewed my hope in humanity. The U.S. soldier who was Afghanistan War veteran who is a double amputee encouraging new amputees that life will get better and they will do things in the future. A self less act to reassure this lady yes she is an amputee but it doesn’t have to define you. You can be a victor and can overcome your circumstances. Prosthetics have come along way and the soldier said you can live a productive life. The soldier is now training for the Para Olympics in track and field for the U.S.A. in 2014. How awesome is that story to overcome the adversity of being a double amputee.

The day in the life of a brain injury survivor is full of reality, dreams, work, family, friends and being the best you can be. This is my life and I hope you enjoy the journey to those who follow my blog. I am at twitter and facebook at Tylor Stingel. My email is tylorjstingel@hotmail.com as well.

Take care and may you follow your dreams! Ty Stingel